Right now I am going through some of the most major and profound changes I’ve ever experienced in my life. In order to do what I am doing I’m having to be the strongest version of who I am and that involves the fighting and breaking down of myself to ultimately overcome and defeat myself.
Any good figher knows that prior to a fight they must analyse the opponent and note down their weaknesses, so for us to win our fight we must have strength but importantly know, allow and accept our weaknesses.
We mustn’t deny our weaknesses – for that gives them power, instead we must acknowledge but not act on them. Weaknesses need to be blessed, they’re there to help you; you may not always realise how or why, – just know they’re there for a reason and leave it at that. Don’t deny them else they’ll hit out when your backs turned.
When we change we need to be strong. We need to be strong through vision, attitude, focus and most important:- “vigilance”.
When we change, the mind will try and stop us. It will try every trick to throw a spanner in the works. (NB/ This is ultimately good – it demonstrates progression).
It will throw all your baggage to you at once (and more) and give you every reason not to do what you’re doing. In essence part of the minds job is to protect you – but sometimes you don’t need protection – especially when changing yourself. This is where you need to be vigilant and ready for the fight. Preparation is everything.
When we don’t act on our unconscious beliefs, instead try something different, the mind gets agitated.
We find ourselves saying and doing things we hadn’t anticipated and a two way struggle begins, it’s the minds way of trying to get back it’s identity. It’s quite strange because I had a dream the other night about Superman 3 – I looked it up and now I understand – it’s the dual personality fight!
Persevere.
No matter how many stupid things you say or self debilitating or self-defeating actions you find yourself doing, simply once aware of what’s happened – move on, forget about it but just keep going whatever you do.
This is a process and will pass.
It’s the old actions testing and fighting you. Sure you’ll find yourself saying goofy things to the person you like or eating the cake when you’re on a diet or missing the appointment for the all important meeting but this is Superman 3 – the alter ego – it’s all there to try and trick and hinder your progress and it’s great – as mentioned, “it means you’re progressing”.
Realise you’re currently ignoring your mind and no-one likes to be ignored.
The mind is simply reviving your attention, or attempting. But how does it do it?
It gets you to do and say silly things when you’re least expecting or consciously aware and then sits back with its result while you’re then left standing in the room with everyone’s mouths open. It’s a good tactic because it gets great results: – “it gets a reaction”.
However, this is a fight so you’re going to need to change your tactics.
When you say something detrimental or do something silly, this time “don’t react” – no matter how humiliating what you’ve just said or done, you’re just going to have to swallow hard and accept the outcome. Do try to tidy up as best possible, apologies normally work, bribes need delicacy and disappearing for a while can make matters easier (and bearable) – but don’t make it too long, you might not have anything to go back to.
As for the situation– if it’s meant to work out it will find a way, if it’s not then so be it; you’re just have to have to have faith in the process and not fret; remember this is a fight – agility is key.
Understand when the mind gets a reaction it keeps you in its power so hence why it will try to mess things up for you through unconscious intent (and hopefully action). It’s always worked in the past so why not again because while you’re fretting about what you’ve just done, the mind will always be gleefully happy that its got it’s companion intact.
The reaction to the situation itself could be anything: – fret, worry, embarrassment, humiliation, shame, guilt, – but ultimately it’s the one that presses your buttons. This is why knowing your weaknesses is your strength. Take note of your trigger points. These will be the things that matter most to you.
The mind will use these because they get the best results, in other words, the best reaction.
An example – if losing weight is important to you – it may just be harder to exert will power right now because the mind will be making a special unconscious effort to slip you up so it can get its usual reaction (so be mindful of your danger zones / areas). If it does achieve its goal and you slip up, this time – refuse to feel bad because right now you can’t afford to feel bad – it could cost you a blow to the head and undo all the work you’ve been doing.
Another example – perhaps you’ve wanted to break up with your partner for a while and you’ve just summoned the courage to do so – but now you’re riddled with guilt. Refuse to accept your reaction or rather acknowledge it but “do not act on it”, for guilt maybe your weakness.
Know your weaknesses because the opponent (you) will be using them and no better person who knows you than yourself!
Be aware – the mind is going to become more agitated as it becomes increasingly ignored (the goal on your part is to work and break it down until it crashes and you become champ) – so be prepared for some potentially embarrassing situations. Try to avoid anything that could be fatal to damage in career and relationships, so rule out any forthcoming wedding or job appointments in the run up to a fight.
Whatever you do – persevere and remember Superman III
The way to win a fight is not to accept defeat (of mind or body), always keep focused on the goal, be prepared and do your homework and get in shape both mentally and physically – you’ll need the stamina and agility because it might, just might get nasty (and slightly embarrassing).
